Wednesday, December 14, 2005

Marriage Life

The time is here! I guess it gets here for most of us, but Saturday, December 17, 2005 is my day. And for some reason, I am quite nervous. I don't know if any of you got nervous before your big day, but I am. Thus, I am writing this to all you married persons out there. Any advice for me? Any words of wisdom in my last few days as a single man? I look up to all of you married guys and gals out there just because you are married and thus are more experts on marriage than me. I think here are my biggest causes of nervousness...
1. The wedding night - an obvious one for someone who has never been there.
2. The idea of entering something so final - Don't get me wrong, I am pumped about it overall. However, for a guy who only had one girlfriend and is 27, ahhhh! (but it really is a good ahhhh)
3. Parents - I really hope my parents will come to love and enjoy her family, and Shannon as well. This has been a little rocky so far.
4. My selfishness - I never realized how selfish I am until now! And now I have to share that with another.
5. Provision - Now I have to provide for others and not just myself anymore. Every decision I make affects more than just me.
And I am sure there are others, but this is what I have for now. Again, don't get me wrong, I am excited about going through with this, but am just nervous. Any other former nervous grooms out there?

14 comments:

David Drury said...

You're ready for prime time-baby. Don't worry.

rock the casbah,

-DD

Anonymous said...

From a future nervous groom (hopefully), I would ask that you take careful notes as you go through this nerve-wracking process so that you can pass great wisdom my way when needed. Sorry if that sounds a bit selfish, but I really can't give advice ya' know!

Anonymous said...

Bri-

You are never really nervous for anything, so it's funny to me that you are! You are more nervous than me! But I'm sure I'll catch up. Don't worry, you're more than I could ever ask for. I love you!

Shan

Anonymous said...

Brian,

The BIG day is exciting. She will be the most beautiful thing you ever laid your eyse on! The back doors will open, and the biggest smile will come across your face...your eyes might even get wet?

My wife Randi and I have been married just over 2 years. It has just been lately that I have realized that I married out of my league!

I too am working on the "selfishness" part, but you learn to adapt, and it then become second nature :)

As far as the wedding night...I believe that your site is PG rated, and some of the things I might share could be X rated, so If you really want to know you can give me a call...You know being a youth pastor, I am getting good talking about the birds and bees. HA!

Oh...I was 33 when I got married, nothing wrong with a bit of age behind your ears.

You da man,

Joe

Matt said...

Bradford, congrats my brother. That is so awesome. Megan and I will be praying that the Lord will bless you two as you begin this new adventure (and mark my words, it is an adventure). I know I can't really offer alot of advice, but simply give each other your all. Protect her and serve her at any cost. Unfortunately sometimes the church puts unrealistic expectations on our wives, so make sure you protect from that as much as possible. It's a shame, but sometimes church people can be the most ruthless. As it relates to the wedding night, just relax and you'll know what to do...like Joe I won't give any details. The final thing I would say is just fall more and more in love with each other everyday. This may be something "final" but that is the best part, and most importantly laugh as much as you can. That is one of the best things about Megan and I-that we love to laugh with and at each other. It is the greatest thing. You are going to be an awesome husband. I know you will love and serve her like no other. We'll be praying for you my brother! Keep in touch
-McKee (and Megan too)

Feltzy said...

Well, I don't have any insight into the whole wedding night thing BUT I do want to say that I am so thankful for your friendship and the role that you had in my life. I have never met your bride but she has to be special because she has your love and devotion. Family is just like many things in life=once you are comfortable in your own skin, it makes it easy to be consistent in your caring and love for others-Your family will come around=Just keep being who you are and they will love you both for that!

I hope that today is wonderful and only gets better for you!

tonymyles said...

Congrats, dude!

Wags said...

what an awesome weekend brother!! I'm so glad you let me hang out with you guys leading up to everything!! Check out my blog to see my post about your wedding man!!
I love you both!!

Doug Witte said...

I'm so glad you're married. Now that you're off the market, the ladies might actually look my way.

Jennifer said...

Congratulations Brian! I saw your blog site on a friend of mine's blog and thought I'd leave you a note! I'm not sure if you remember me or not from IWU! You'll make an awesome husband!

Anonymous said...

Dear Brian,
I just found this thanks to matt bedwin. anyways, i just realized that up until the 17th, we were very similar in the fact where God hadn't given us the opportunity to make a lifetime commitment to someone else, even though you are like 10 years older than me (man you're an oldie :) just kidding...). it's cool how honest your were about being nervous...i couldn't even imagine. but i think it's also really cool how despite all that nervousness, you know what is real..you know your feelings mean more than all the worries you may have and that what you have with shannon makes all the things you listed totally worth it. you made a big commitment, but God was backing you through all of it so you know that there is only way it can all turn out....GOOD. he may not deal with those things in the way you are hoping for because sometimes those things just aren't a part of His plan, but He'll make it right. He always does. wow, i'm sure you know all of this already..besides, you're already married so obviously you've already had to deal with this stuff. ANYWAYS...you're awesome, and congrats!

Kelsey First

Anonymous said...

Congratulations, Brian! I wish you and your new wife the best! Post some pictures of your special day soon!

Josh Garlow said...

Some advise:
Abstinence is the only form of SAFE sex>
(I say this with my second oops on the way)

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